Majority of the time, it is received by the world at large with a sad sigh, or a comment about how things never change, and that women are the ones who have to make all the sacrifices. But it makes me wonder – if a woman chooses to quit her job, if she chooses to not take a promotion, if she chooses to support her spouse or family by taking a backseat in career, if it is entirely her choice, who are we to judge? If that is what makes a woman happy, truly happy, then shouldn’t our nose end where these women’s businesses begin? Who are we the society to stereotype them to be exactly like the women of the past, subjugated to a tyranny of a marriage or a conservative family or a society that refuses to break the shackles around women, if that is indeed their smart, intelligent, informed CHOICE?
While it might be that some men need kid gloves to be dealt with, who said they’re the only ones? I’m sure there’s an equal number of women need to be dealt with patiently, who need a pillar of support to lean on to learn to love and trust. While some of us might enjoy wanting to have an equal foothold in a career, some women might enjoy staying at home and putting their artistic skills to use. Some women might want to ONLY bring up their child and absolutely do nothing else in life – and as long as the family to which she belongs to is okay with it, what’s our problem? Hell, if a woman does not want to work without a kid even, and just be at home and take care of her husband, if that is precisely what she wants to do, and if they can afford to do so, then who are we to demand equality for them? Nobody, whatsoever.
In life, we win some, we lose some. And so is true for every choice even women make. So maybe the choice of quitting a job might turn out to be a not so great decision for some women. It may turn out that waiting for someone they love too long wasn’t the right thing to do. It may turn out that staying at home with children left them with more angst than joy, years later. But this is the same on the other side of the spectrum as well. It might happen that a job that someone chose to continue can add way too much stress. It can be that in the name of equality, a child at home got neglected in his or her growing years. It can be that not waiting for that one person who meant the world becomes the biggest regret of somebody’s life. There’s no decision that is right, at the end of the day.
And as a woman of today’s world, if a woman makes a choice or a decision that isn’t pro-feminist, and if her decision goes wrong, that just still means we win some, we lose some. In a truly equal world, there should be no questions about the choices people make (well meaning ones, even), whether it is a man or woman. And in a world where a strong headed woman is celebrated, a big hearted one shouldn’t be considered any lesser.